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Thursday, October 30, 2014

Love Quotes for Husband: 15 Sayings That Will to Bring a Smile to His Face

Love Quotes for Husband
 Here are some quotes to share with your husband for those times when you're not sure what to write in the card you bought for him or perhaps you just want to encourage him or bring a smile to his face.

 A good husband makes a good wife. John Florio

Sometimes I think [my husband] is so amazing that I don't know why he's with me. I don't know whether I'm good enough. But if I make him happy, then I'm everything I want to be. Angelina Jolie

I love being married. It's so great to find that one special person you want to annoy for the rest of your life. Rita R

I love my husband very much. I knew it was real true love because I felt like I could be myself around that person. Your true, true innermost authentic self, the stuff you don't let anyone else see, if you can be that way with that person, I think that that's real love. Idina Menzel

My best friend is the one who brings out the best in me. Henry Ford

In terms of my marriage, you know, falling in love with my husband was by far the best thing that's ever happened to me. Caroline Kennedy

I love being my husband's wife. Julianna Margulies

I want everyone to meet you. You’re my favorite person of all time. Rainbow Rowell

I wanted to tell you that wherever I am, whatever happens, I’ll always think of you, and the time we spent together, as my happiest time. I’d do it all over again, if I had the choice. No regrets. Cynthia Hand

If my life was a ship, at port you would be the anchor that holds me in place and at sea you would be the sails which take me on a beautiful journey. Author unknown

Faithfulness flows from you, gratefulness is what I feel for you. No matter where we are in life, I know that you will always be there for me like a guiding star. Kate Hams-worth

I know what it is to live entirely for and with what I love best on earth. I hold myself supremely blest -- blest beyond what language can express; because I am my husband's life as fully as he is mine. Charlotte Brontë, Jane Eyre

There should have been a cautionary warning below your name in our marriage certificate. It should have said “beware of hot husband.” Author unknown

Even though many years have passed by, I still feel so loved by you. It still feels like just yesterday when we got engaged and then after a little while got married - I love you so much! Ruby Walks

You are such a blessing in my life. The kids are so happy and you keep all of us so happy. You are the man that any woman would want in her life. Thank you so much for being what you are. Gloria Tellies

Whenever I'm with you, I feel like you know everything about me- my hopes, my dreams, my idiosyncrasies and yet you love me completely. What a gift! Thank you, my dear husband. Lorene Troyer

Are you looking for gift ideas for your husband? Go to 51 Gift Ideas for Husband

Monday, March 28, 2011

Resentment and Unmet Emotional Needs

Do you sometimes feel angry and resentful at your husband without really knowing why?

If you are suffering from the resentment flu in your marriage, consider whether the source of your hostility is caused by unmet emotional needs. If your needs are not being met it may cause anger, stress, unhappiness, low self-esteem and all sorts of negative feelings and emotions tend to show up.

This is the cycle you might be experiencing:
1. Your need for affection is not met
2. You become resentful (often without knowing why)
3. You do and say things that drive you further away from your husband

If you are feeling hostile towards your husband, think about what your is. What makes you feel loved and cared for in your relationship? Physical touch (hugs, kisses etc.) or compliments or being told “I love you” or maybe conversation is the key to your heart.

If your husband’s faults seem overwhelming, consider whether unmet emotional needs are the real cause of your discontentment. Once you become aware of what the problem is, it will be easier for you to put things in perspective and work on getting your emotional needs met.

Affair-Proof Your Marriage: Foiling The Competition

Diligence is an important key in affair proofing your marriage.  Most women find it very easy to go for days, weeks and even months without even thinking about sex.  They have a house to clean, children to take care of, a job or career to think about plus a myriad of other responsibilities that demand time and effort.

Most men, on the other hand, think about sex a lot.  It’s one of their most important needs.  So
what happens when the husband goes to work day after day with this need unmet.  Suppose he comes in contact with an attractive woman who knows what he needs and is moving in for the kill.

Will he come home from work and say, “Honey, I really need you to quit wearing those shapeless clothes and start admiring me and having sex with me because without your help, I am going to commit adultery.”

This type of warning could save women a lot of grief,  but usually the signals are not that obvious.

Women can be lulled into complacency because their husband is a Christian and they believe he would never stoop to having an affair or ...  they forget that his needs are different than theirs or ... he has not said anything about sex for awhile so he must be okay.

Pay attention to what’s going on in your marriage.  Are your husband’s needs being met (by you)?  1 Peter 5: 8 tells us to be vigilant because our enemy is walking around looking for somebody to destroy (and sometimes he’ll use another woman, without scruples, to get it done).  Don’t let it happen to you.

10 Things That Shame Your Husband

According to Proverbs 12:4, a virtuous wife is her husband’s joy and crown but a woman that causes him shame is like a disease in his bones. Have you ever seen a woman making fun of her husband or berating him in public? Here are some more ways women can shame their husbands:
  • Not treating him with respect
  • Talking down to him
  • Ignoring him (not giving him your full attention when he’s talking to you)
  • Pressuring him to do something he does not want to do
  • Not allowing him to lead
  • Trying to act like one of the guys
  • Lecturing him
  • Making fun of his ideas
  • Discussing his faults with friends
It's very easy to fall into the trap of doing and saying things that humiliate your husband, especially when you do not realize the extent of the damage it can do to his ego.

Personally, I would much rather be a crown and joy to my husband than a wife who is like a disease to his bones. How about you?

Why Doesn’t He Talk to Me

Have you ever seen that your man was upset and assumed that he would feel better if he simply talked about it? You tried to get him to talk and he said, “I’m okay” or “It’s nothing.”

If you persisted in trying to find out what was bugging him, he may actually have gotten quite upset, and said “I am fine. Would you just leave me alone!”

It’s easy for a wife to get the wrong idea about his unwillingness to talk.  She may think he’s in denial or feel that he doesn’t love or trust her anymore.

In order to make sense of his silence you need to know that while women usually feel better when they talk about the issues they are facing, men deal with stress, problems and unanswered questions by spending time alone and being quiet.

So if your spouse is feeling stressed or is dealing with a certain problem, don’t take it personally if he doesn't want to talk about it. Give him his space and when he is ready, he’ll share his thoughts. 

The Self-Sacrificing Wife: Thoughts on Denying Yourself

The wife who practices continual self-sacrifice is not helping herself or her marriage. Many women believe that self-denial is a desirable trait. They will go year after year denying their own wants and desires so their husband and children can have the things they want.

It may be necessary in the lean times to make some sacrifices but this should not be the norm. Here are some reasons why this type of selflessness can actually harm your marriage.

First, it hurts your self-esteem. You are in effect, telling yourself that you are not as important as the other members in your household.

Secondly, your husband does not want a self-sacrificial wife. He wants you to be his queen and it is important that you treat herself as one.

Third, it can affect your husband’s self-worth. If he sees that you are not buying the things you want for yourself, he feels inadequate as a provider.

Finally, it can cause you to feel resentful and angry when you keep making sacrifices and no one seems to notice or care. In fact, if you complain to your husband about it- he may get defensive and angry.

While I am not saying you should go out and buy yourself a diamond bracelet when your children don’t have lunch money for school, it is important that you take care of yourself and do things that make you feel good about yourself- things like getting your hair done, wearing stylish clothes or using quality make-up.

Frequent self-denial does not increase your worth as a wife. Instead it has the opposite effect. By taking care of yourself, you will increase your confidence and it will be easier for you to meet the needs of your family.

Self-Respect in Marriage: Don’t Be a Doormat

One of the signs that you are being a doormat in your marriage, is if you rarely express your true feelings for fear of rocking the boat or making your husband angry. If one spouse is very opinionated, often the other person’s ideas and thoughts are dismissed as unimportant or stupid. If this is happening to you, evaluate why it is happening.

Is he simply frustrated in the marriage and he is taking it out on you or is it just a deeply ingrained habit?
If he is acting out of habit, you need to let him know how his behavior makes you feel. Think about what you want to say to him before you actually confront him. Do not demand a change, or lash out at him in anger- say something like “When you do not let me share my opinion, it makes me feel like you think I don’t know anything” or “When I tell you what I think and you tear my opinion apart, it makes me feel….( angry, frustrated, dumb etc.)”

You may also want to try the method mentioned in Fascinating Womanhood. The author, Helen Andelin describes a way to express yourself and at the same time turn up your feminine charm. She calls it “being saucy or sassy.” It may sound silly but the gist of it is to respond to his insensitive behavior as a little girl might.

With all the seriousness you can muster up, make exaggerated, childlike threats like, “Every time I tell you what I think, you make fun of me. I am never going to talk to you again,” or “Just because you are bigger and stronger than I am, you think I should think exactly like you do- if that’s the way you are going to be, I am never going to do anything nice for you again.”

The key is to not say these things with any real malice, only pretend anger. Do not laugh while you are saying it or give any indication that you are not serious.
If you want a good marriage, you must have the freedom to express yourself without being put down. If you recognize that you have been too conforming, take the steps necessary and let your voice be heard.